- Emotional Responsibility: People a life give me the opportunity to get upset. I can choose not to disturb myself when they create adversity for me so I can take constructive action. I can choose how I feel when life is rough.
- Unconditional Self and Other Acceptance: Humans are born mistake makers. It is best to accept myself and others unconditionally because we are human. Reject and penalize misbehavior, but fully accept the fallible human.
- Uncertainty Tolerance: I dislike uncertainty. I can act and live well despite it. Even though I may fail, I can take calculated risks to achieve my goals.
- Discomfort Tolerance: Frustration and discomfort are difficult to bear. I can and will tolerate the discomfort required to achieve my important life goals.
- Self-Direction: Without approval from others, I can choose to make my own choices in life and be responsible for the outcome of my decisions. I am willing to pay some price for owning myself and my choices.
- Vitally Absorbing Interests: I will tend to be healthier and happier if I maintain a vitally absorbing interest and significant human involvement.
- Tolerance of Life: Utopias do not exist and it is best to accept the difficulties of life. I will change what can be changed and not upset myself over what cannot be changed. I can have some degree of happiness despite my adversities.
- Acceptance: Things do not absolutely have to be as I want them to be. I disturb myself by demanding reality to be as I think it should be instead of accepting it as it is and striving to control and change what is within my domain of influence.
Person-Centered REBT: Professional Counseling, Clinical Supervision, and Coaching